The Greater Good: The Sacrifices you make being a Mom.

Posted: August 14, 2017

I can’t say that even at 26 when I had my first child I was prepared to be a mom. Prior to having my first born I was working 12 hour shifts at a hospital in NYC. I drove a two door sports model car, I fended for myself, and my wardrobe consisted of tight leather pants, stilettos and low plunge blouses. However, when I had my daughter my lifestyle changed. I still worked 12 hour days at the hospital but instead I traded the two door for a four door sedan and I now had someone else other than myself to fend for. I kept the leather pants, low plunge blouses and stilettos in my wardrobe, I just didn’t wear them to the PTA meetings!My relationship status also changed. I went from being in a relationship to being single. I never pictured that I would be a single mom but then again I never pictured being a mom at 26 either. To be honest, in my early twenties I was not the girl who dreamed of getting married, having 2.5 kids and a dog. (Btw is their such a thing as .5 kid, I assumed .5 is pregnancy lol) You would probably think…at 25 when most of my friends were getting married and having kids that I wanted to do the same but you would be wrong. Looking back I think that’s why my daughter’s father was attracted to me, I never stressed marriage. I did however, require commitment and fidelity; which he gave until he didn’t… and just like that at 26 I was a single mom.

A year after having my daughter I decided to relocate to Atlanta, GA to be closer to my support system, my parents and my younger sister who was in high school at the time. We (my daughter and I) lived in a three bedroom apartment in NYC and I had a live-in Nanny who was fluent in Spanish and English. However, I also worked long hours and my daughter spent a lot of time indoors because my apartment did not offer a big back yard for her to roam. Relocating to Atlanta offered big back yards and big Christmases with family for my daughter. My decision to relocate to Atlanta also meant an annual $30K pay cut.

 

Even though the recruiter tried to convince me that the cost of living was cheaper than NYC, which it was when considering real estate, but the cost to maintain my lifestyle was still the same. My car note, my student loans, my credit card bills, they were all going to be the same. I decided to move to Atlanta regardless of the $30k pay cut for the greater good, my daughters happiness. My thought was, I am a hustler and the money part I will figure out. I was willing to make the sacrifice of the “fabulous” lifestyle in NYC in search of green pastures for my daughter.

Life does not always go by a blueprint. Sometimes you never know what God has planned for you that will at times change your life as you know it. There are also times that we are not prepared for change nor do we have the answers to deal with that change. The only thing we can do is learn to adapt and when we are not certain what door or opportunity to choose, choose what will be the greater good. The greater good for me back then was choosing my daughters happiness. Ultimately, doing so lead to even greater things for my lifestyle. After relocating to Georgia, I met my husband and my two beautiful step-sons. Later, I had two more kids and yes, a dog :).

4 Comments

  • Ryan Glover August 14, 2017 at 11:29 am

    Bravo MG! Looking good. 😍

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  • Juanita Hines August 14, 2017 at 1:36 pm

    Thank you for sharing some of your life stories.  As a wife, and a mom I certainly can relate to the sacrifices we made and often will make to assure that our families are happy and surrounded by love.  Although at times it’s not a walk in the park… I would not trade it for nothing in this world. 

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  • J-Lyn August 14, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Good Day Doll,
    This is one of your best posts yet! I mentioned on a previous comment about your transparency. This right here solidifies all that you portray on your personal Instagram. Although, I don’t know you, almost every picture you post clearly reflects the love & dedication to being a mother and wife while balancing your career. It’s refreshing to see/read such “Wholesomeness”. A beautiful woman of color, that’s highly intelligent, multi-talented with formal education, integrity and old school family values all while being glamorous. This is why you must keep sharing, blogging because the aforementioned is what sets you apart and unique. Regardless of society norms, it’s very impressive to see a woman of your caliber promoting a virtuous lifestyle. Quality over quantity!!! My apologies for rambling, but thank you for this because it truly blessed me. I too know what it means to be a young mother. The sacrifice of career advancement etc., in exchange for the betterment of your children. It’s a selfless act, but I’ve come to learn there is no greater investment than your child. God always rewards his faithful servants. Many Blessings

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  • T-Harris August 17, 2017 at 2:18 pm

    I love this post. I follow you on Instagram and I love your style. Family, Glamorous woman and your classy presentation. I never knew your story before coming to your website but I like you even more. I am in the same exact boat as you were when mentioning “I decided to move to Atlanta regardless of the $30k pay cut for the greater good, my daughters happiness.” My story is moving to NC but my children’s happiness and my sanity means everything. Don’t get me wrong I miss the 35k I lost but I’m happy and so is my family. Thank you for this post and your great website.

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